Saturday, April 29, 2006

Shine On

So here's the million dollar question:

Am I my best self with this guy?

That's what I am going to ask next time I think I like someone. Before I even get to the "L" word. Because experience has shown me that you have to set the level of what you are willing to settle for . . . and by settle, I mean strive. And then I got to thinking that that one important question led to others...

  • Do I light up?
  • Do I shine in his presence?
  • Do I feel confident?
  • Do I laugh a lot with him?
  • Smile a lot with him?
  • Feel comfortable in my own skin?
  • Do I feel bold?
  • Do I want to open up and share?
  • Do I feel at ease in the silences?
  • Is he thoughtful?
  • Do I feel like I can disagree with him and he will still like me?
  • Do I want to introduce him to my friends?
  • Do I want to try new things with him?
  • Will my family love him?
  • Does my heart kind of melt when I look at him sleeping or catch him doing one of his quirky habits?
  • Do I want to tell him the worst of my day?
  • Is he the first one I want to call when great things happen?
  • Do I feel beautiful in his gaze?
  • Will my friends think he "gets" me and is worthy of me?
  • Does he inspire my passion?
  • Do I feel cared for?
Not a bad place to start. . .

My five things for today:

1. I tell the truth.

2. I believe in the best of people.

3. I can laugh at myself.

4. I pay attention to the small details.

5. I listen- for what is being spoken and what is not being said.


jeopardygirl said...

Excellent, excellent to all of it! Have a great weekend, Sizz!

sandra said...

Sizz, you're all insightful!

Claire said...

Good lists, both of them.

Nihilistic said...

OOoooooo...I like your number 5 on the second list!!!!

Mikey said...

Me too love the second list. Great posting

Bill said...

Listening is a lost art (assuming anyone ever had it). Hearing isn't the same thing. For me, listening is paying attention and being aware that what isn't said is as important, if not more so, than what is not. Body language etc. are all important.

I think I use to be better at it than I am now. Not sure why that is.

Valerie said...

It's amazing that you always seem to be posting about things that are on my mind. I miss you, Sizzle!

jjjj said...

today i am...
1. sad.
2. anxious.
3. really sad.
4. tired.
5. alone.

pretty pathetic. but congrats to you and your positive insight.

Jenny said...

i love this"
"am i my best self with this..."

mine is: girl

and i said yes, once.

hopefully there will be another.

kapgar said...

Sizz, great list. Change "him" to "her" and it applies with Katie and me.

Alison said...

That's a great list. Thanks!

sue said...

I love this. You have hit the nail on the head...!!!!

nancycle said...


Really...does he make your toes curl AND make you breakfast in the morning?

Now we're talkin'.