Wednesday, October 18, 2006

My Space Is For Stalkers

Since moving to Seattle, I've met two guys off of My Space. Not on purpose. It just sort of happened. For every decent guy who messages me there are about 10 lame-o's. And even then those decent guys? Probably not so decent.

I had a girl message me the other day. Seemed harmless enough. Apparently she's seen my profile on a couple of her "friends" pages. She seemed friendly. I could use some female friends here. I messaged her back. We started emailing and it became apparent that the two friends we had in common? Um yeah, she kind of "dated" them. Is kind of seeing one of them still. Oh yeah and I am kind of seeing him too.

Ha. Ha. Ha?

That doesn't bother me that much. I have only had one date with this guy and he is in no way obligated to be exclusive. I am not being exclusive. Why should I ask that of him? My ego would like that but I'm too smart for that crap. Double standard much? The other fella? Well she knew him about a year ago and she certainly had a different view of him than I do. How enlightening!

So now I am thinking- did this girl message me with an ulterior motive? Was she fishing for information on why I was on both of these guys pages? And how weird is it that she invited me out to a party this weekend to prowl for guys? And weirder still that the reason I won't go is that I am going on a date with the guy she is also dating.

Weird. Very weird.

This casual dating business is for the birds. It is so very difficult to trust anyone nowadays.

16 comments:

alissa said...

Holy....

Lushy said...

I'm still in shock over this one. Really.

I wouldn't trust any of them. Him, him or her.

Circe said...

I wouldn't trust them either. Ulterior motives indeed.

Becky said...

I don't mean to betray my gender, but I think most women are kind of manipulative. I would've trust her at all. The guy doesn't raise as many flags for me because, as you said, you only went out on one date and you're by no means exclusive. But for what it's worth, there are still "normal" female friends to find in Seattle:)

JustRun said...

I'd vote "yes" on the alterior motive. For sure. I'm glad you have enough sense to separate the two, but still be cautious of both. I have no doubt there are normal women in Seattle that will seek friends, in whatever forum, for no other reason than they are nice people. However, I do doubt that any of them will be dating the same man as you. You could write books from this stuff!

kapgar said...

Times like this I'm glad my profile reads "married" and "here to network." Nothing else. Weirdo messages at a minimum!

hotpinksox said...

I wouldn't trust her. . . . .at least until you get to know her better. She could be just too friendly. Would it be weird to ask the men about her?

Margaret said...

Eew. She sounds like drama waiting to happen.

Do you tell the guy you've been intouch with her?

Anonymous said...

I once saw a tee-shirt on a girl that read "Myspace ruined my relationship!". It's so sad to think that it could be true!

Bone said...

"My Space Is For Stalkers"

"This casual dating business is for the birds. It is so very difficult to trust anyone nowadays."

Amen. Amen. And amen.

snackiepoo said...

I hate online dating, yet am a hypocrite cause that is how I met Shawn....although, I met him through blogging, not any other method.

This one time, I was dating this guy from Love @ AOL back in the day and he swore he was into me but things did not gel with that. So, not that I am proud of this but I set up fake emails and responded to his profile...he sent the same email back to both girls that he had sent me in the beginning, LOL. Like he sent out a freaking form letter; I stopped dating him and he was flustered and surprised. Shame on me but in my defense, I was in my early 20's.

~Tori said...

I always get in trouble for being angry at things my friend might do, but it's because of this kind of stuff...

does it ever end?

ocg said...

Drama much?

Dear lord...

I have decided that I am never meeting anyone off of the internet... and this time I mean it!

;-)

Nihilistic said...

FREAK!!

Kerry said...

hhhmmm.. the first thought I had was that you're being set up.

Be careful!!!

Anonymous said...

Yeah the best is when their profile says "Single", they say they are not in a realtionship. You meet, there is chemisrty so you hook up, and then in the heat of penatration...he frantically pops out of you and screams at you to get your clothes on, grab all you stuff and get out the back door because "she never gets home this early!!"
ooooh that makes you feel nice and clean!
Here's to the internet!
EKS